An Outlet For Autistic
First off, I want to apologize for not writing about autism and all that good stuff. I am in college and spend most of my time working on my homework and classes. I also want my audience to know a little information and my plans to write more posts during summer before I go back to higher education (hopefully).
An Outlet For the Autistic
Knowing what’s frustrating, for you and your loved ones, I wish to provide an outlet. Knowing the right outlet is is super important for the autistic individual because they are prone to have autistic meltdowns. Since I know how this feels, (being overwhelmed by a smallest problem or obstacle), I unpleasant this feels. For those of you who do not know, I can only describe that it gives you the sense of the walls closing around me and that I feel like I will never get anything right. I am thankful for my family members who calmly lead me back to reality.
There are ways you could help an individual through an autistic meltdown:
- find a quiet place
- be patient
- stay calm
The first thing you need to do when you noticed that a loved one has an autistic meltdown is to find a silent and peaceful room and setting (especially if they’re sound sensitive). Through my experience, when I start to feel overwhelmed, I would exit the room in which I am located and separate from the situation to a quieter area. I found it is much easier time to calm down and organized my thoughts.
The reasons for removing a distressed individual from a chaos area to a more peaceful one would help them gather their thoughts and senses; some autistics are more sensitive to their surroundings (sight, touch, sound, and taste, etc.), and sometimes they can be overwhelmed by their senses. Finding a quiet place would (in theory) help organize their head, and give them a small break from the LOUD, busy world.
Sure, it is easy to find a quiet room in your house, your home, in the comforts of being inside of private life, but what about the public?
Do not fear for there is a solution for this little situation. The public restroom “is” most likely place for anyone that needs a quiet break. With the room being a plane (usually) it would give someone with a sensitive issue a place to have some time to recover from the chaos, and because the public restroom is “often” plan you can cover all their needs. (That’s my advice; you’ll don’t have to follow them, find what makes your loved ones relax).
Warning: DO NOT FORCE THEM TO ENDURE THE CHAOS
By forcing them to undergo more than one overstimulate happening at the same time, from my experience I’ll describe like going through torture, and if an autistic individual doesn’t know how to deal with multiple distractions, they will be overwhelmed and have an autistic meltdown. (Remember that you’re trying to help not causing them to have stress).
Once you have removed your child (or any individual) from a chaotic environment and in a private place where they could calm down, it is now time to play the waiting game!
Like everything else in this world, an autistic individual recovering from an autistic meltdown is no different, and there will be waiting for them to calm down to function again. Each one is not the same; they are different people, and so the time frame is different for each. Time wise dependents on each, some minutes and for others hours, and for our loved ones you have to be patient.
Now we are going to the a term that all autistic individuals have; stimming.
First of all, don’t worry, this is typical for people with autism to stim. Stimming helps regulate their emotions, stimulus their brain, and helps them relax. Sometimes the autistic individuals would shut off most of their senses that are receiving more information that it overwhelms them, and sometimes it has prevented an autistic meltdown. But not all stimmings are one in the same; there are self-harming stimming and inappropriate behavior, and it is your job to keep your child (or loved ones) safe.
Self-harming behavior, such as head banging on a hard surface (walls, tables, floors, and est.), pulling their hair, biting their skin (hands, arms, est.), and hitting themselves or throwing themselves that may harm to themselves. These types of stimming you must keep an eye out, and when they start showing signs of these self-harming stims you gotta, for their safety, prevent these kinds of behaviors.
Inappropriate stimming, such as running back-and-forth, making strange noises (like barking, clinking, whooping and hollering. ect.), and rubbing hands or rubbing their head when excitement or distressed. Since there is no self-harm with these types of stimming, there is no worry, but it’s embarrassing when your loved ones engage these stimming in public. The best way to help your loved ones (or children) is to help them to understand that these behaviors are not socially acceptable, and find something that would be appropriate in public. For example these fidget spinners.
There are other objects and activities to help you or your loved ones to stim without drawing unwanted attention, but you must be willing to research and work for the positive results; nothing in this life comes easy (then again what is?). Some websites can help you in finding something to help you or your loved ones, and with hard work plus knowing yourself and your loved ones you’ll be able to work a system that would be safe for you and loved ones.
It’s important to stay calm while your child is going through an autistic meltdown; panicking would not anything, it would make things worst because your children can sense your stress and would react to it. Being calm while a meltdown is going down will help you stay focus as well as your children to calm down quickly, and with some time and practice, both your child and you would be able to avoid autistic meltdown as well as identify healthy habits. Also, don’t forget to consult with your child’s doctor (someone who’s specialist with autism) to develop a plan that would help them succeed in life.
Its critical to stay parent with yourself while working on a new habit or breaking habit because if you get yourself, all work you’ll be only burning yourself out; making yourself less energized to overcome your struggles, and be more frustrated and be more likely to call it quits. When you don’t succeed, try, try again. And don’t think that failure as the end of all to all, but work to consider it as a learning experience. If you’ve failed, it’s not the end of the world.
What I found to be helpful (in my opinion) was reading my Bible; to lean in my religion has helped to overcome my breakdowns as well as to locate some healthy habits, and to function in the “normal” society. (Though some of my bad habits do creep up from time to time, therefore, don’t be ashamed if this happens.) I also find that prayer during a panic attack has helped as well, but I will admit that it does take a lot of practice to achieve this type of self-control along with help from friends, family, and sometimes a helpful stranger.
Here some of Bible verses that I think would help you and your loved ones how to handle these types of behaviors, and I also hope that they would give you some comfort and closure. I also put down some websites that may help you to expand your knowledge of these two subjects as well as showing you that you’re not alone when facing an autistic meltdown and harmful stimming.